Roles and duties at a wedding

So you’ve found that special someone and its time to show everyone how you feel. On your big day friends and family are going to want to play a key role, and there are numerous ways you can involve them.

The trick is knowing who is the best person for each role and then making sure they know exactly what is expected of them beforehand so they don’t struggle on the day. You don’t want a teary bridesmaid or best man because they feel like they have let you down – that would be horrible. So let everybody know what is expected from the beginning.

There is a lot to do, so here is a list to help you in the planning process.

Best Man

Checkbox helping the Groom choose the Ushers
Checkbox ensuring the Ushers understand and fulfill their duties
Checkbox helping the Bride and Groom choose the Groom’s, Best Man’s and Ushers’ suits
Checkbox attending suit fittings
Checkbox organising the stag (bucks) party
Checkbox writing and practising the speeches
Checkbox offering support to the wedding couple throughout the planning process
Checkbox visiting the wedding venue(s) with the couple and attending the wedding rehearsal
Checkbox assisting the Groom with anything he needs on the day
Checkbox helping the Groom get ready on the morning of the wedding
Checkbox transporting the Groom to the wedding venue (allowing plenty of time)
Checkbox overseeing that button holes, corsages and the order of service sheets are distributed by the Ushers
Checkbox taking care of the wedding rings
Checkbox settling the balance on the bill (with luck he asked for the money in advance)
Checkbox standing with the Groom at the altar while he waits for his bride
Checkbox acting as an official witness
Checkbox escorting the Maid of Honour out of the ceremony
Checkbox assisting the photographer by rounding up family members and friends for photos
Checkbox directing guests from the ceremony to the reception venue
Checkbox standing in the receiving line to greet guests on arrival
Checkbox mingling with guests, ensuring that everyone is having a good time
Checkbox offering drinks to guests
Checkbox delivering the Best Man speech
Checkbox reading out messages to the couple from guests and absent friends
Checkbox looking out for and resolving any issues that occur on the day
Checkbox coordinating suppliers and ensuring they are happy
Checkbox preparing the Bride and Groom’s car for when they leave
Checkbox arranging for the wedding gifts to be transported home

Maid of Honour/Chief Bridesmaid
Checkbox assisting and advising the Bride with the wedding planning
Checkbox supporting the Bride at all times
Checkbox responsible for Bridesmaids, Flower Girl(s) and Page Boy(s) (ensuring they are in the right places, dressed correctly and completing their duties)
Checkbox helping the Bride choose her dress
Checkbox helping the Bride choose the Bridesmaids’ dresses
Checkbox attending dress fittings
Checkbox organising the hen party
Checkbox attending the wedding rehearsal
Checkbox ensuring that the Bride looks her best on the day
Checkbox carrying emergency supplies, such as tissues, make up, hair clips and safety pins
Checkbox arranging the Bride’s veil and dress before and during the wedding ceremony
Checkbox looking after the Bride’s bouquet during the ceremony
Checkbox acting as an official witness
Checkbox standing in the receiving line to greet guests on arrival
Checkbox mingling with guests, ensuring that everyone is having a good time
Checkbox helping the Bride change into her evening dress
Checkbox arranging for the dress and wedding gifts to be transported home

Giver-Away (traditionally the Father of the Bride)
Checkbox attending suit fittings
Checkbox writing and practising the speech
Checkbox attending the wedding rehearsal
Checkbox escorting the Bride down the aisle
Checkbox giving the Bride away during the ceremony
Checkbox escorting the Mother of the Bride out of the ceremony
Checkbox standing in the receiving line to greet guests on arrival with the Bride’s Mother
Checkbox delivering the first speech
Checkbox proposing the first toast

Bridesmaid(s)
Checkbox helping the Bride choose the Bridesmaids’ dresses
Checkbox attending fittings
Checkbox helping the Bride at all times
Checkbox attending the wedding rehearsal
Checkbox following the Maid of Honour up the aisle
Checkbox following the Maid of Honour and Best Man out out of the ceremony
Checkbox helping the Bride with her dress throughout the day
Checkbox welcoming guests
Checkbox offering drinks to guests
Checkbox distributing the wedding cake to guests

Flower Girl(s)
Checkbox attending dress fittings
Checkbox attending the wedding rehearsal
Checkbox scattering flower petals from a basket up the aisle for the bride to walk on

Page Boy(s)
Checkbox attending suit fittings
Checkbox attending the wedding rehearsal
Checkbox following the Maid of Honour up the aisle
Checkbox following the Maid of Honour and Best Man out out of the ceremony
Checkbox distributing the wedding cake to guests

Usher(s)
Checkbox attending suit fittings
Checkbox attending the wedding rehearsal
Checkbox helping the Best Man throughout the day
Checkbox escorting the Bridesmaids during the day
Checkbox coordinating car parking and directing guests into the venue
Checkbox greeting guests on arrival and escorting them to their seats
Checkbox handing out the order of service sheets
Checkbox offering buttonholes and corsages to guests
Checkbox dealing with disturbances discreetly
Checkbox being armed with umbrellas to shelter guests if raining
Checkbox directing guests to the reception venue after the ceremony
Checkbox checking that nothing is left behind by guests at the ceremony
Checkbox assisting the photographer by rounding up family members and friends for photos
Checkbox offering drinks to guests
Checkbox introducing guests to one another
Checkbox assisting seating guests for the wedding breakfast
Checkbox distributing the wedding cake to guests
Checkbox looking after younger Ushers and Page Boys

Toastmaster
(somebody charismatic with a loud voice)
Checkbox announcing when the wedding breakfast is going to be served

Checkbox introducing the speeches
Checkbox introducing the cutting of the cake

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